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==Empty Chair, Empty Bed, Empty House==
 
==Empty Chair, Empty Bed, Empty House==
  
Adapted without source citations from Jonathan Ned Katz's book ''Love Stories: Sex Between Men Before Homosexuality.''
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Adapted from Jonathan Ned Katz's book ''Love Stories: Sex Between Men Before Homosexuality'' (University of Chicago Press, 2001). The source citations are available in the printed edition.
  
  
By 1874, the American travel journalist Charles Warren Stoddard had
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'''Photo (right): Charles Warren Stoddard'''
given up on the South Seas, the site of earlier sensual adventures recorded coyly coded form in published articles. He was now pursuing his erotic destiny in Italy.<ref>Ada[ted and republished on OutHistory without the original backnote citations from Jonathan Ned Katz's "Empty Chair, Empty Bed, Empty House", Chapter 14, in ''Love Stories: Sex Between Men Before Homosexuality'' (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2001), pages 202-219.</ref>
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By November 1874, the American travel journalist Charles Warren Stoddard had given up on the South Seas, the site of earlier sensual adventures recorded in coyly coded form in published articles. He was now pursuing his erotic destiny in Italy.<ref>Adapted and republished on OutHistory without the original backnote citations from Jonathan Ned Katz's "Empty Chair, Empty Bed, Empty House", Chapter 14, in ''Love Stories: Sex Between Men Before Homosexuality'' (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2001), pages 202-219.</ref>
  
  
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"We looked at each other and were acquainted in a minute. Some
 
"We looked at each other and were acquainted in a minute. Some
 
people understand one anotherer at sight, and don't have to try, either."
 
people understand one anotherer at sight, and don't have to try, either."
Stoddard's recollection of this meeting was published in Boston's National Magazine
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Stoddard's recollection of this meeting was published in Boston's ''National Magazine''
 
in 1906.
 
in 1906.
  
  
Stoddard's new friend was the American artist Francis Davis Millet.
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Stoddard's friend was the American artist Francis Davis Millet.<ref>Stoddard and Millet had met earlier in Rome, according to {{Engstrom}}, page 62.</ref>
The two had heard of each other, but never met. Stoddard was thirty-one
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Stoddard was thirty-one in 1874, and Millet was twenty-eight.  
in 1874, and Millet was twenty-eight.  
 
  
  
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a Massachusetts doctor, had served as a Union army surgeon, and in
 
a Massachusetts doctor, had served as a Union army surgeon, and in
 
1864, the eighteen-year-old Frank Millet had enlisted as a private, serving
 
1864, the eighteen-year-old Frank Millet had enlisted as a private, serving
first as a drummer boy and then as a surgeon's assistant. Young Millet
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first as a drummer boy and then as a surgeon's assistant.  
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Young Millet
 
graduated from Harvard in 1869, with a master's degree in modern
 
graduated from Harvard in 1869, with a master's degree in modern
languages and literature. While working as a journalist on Boston newspapers,
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languages and literature. While working as a journalist on Boston newspapers,
 
he learned lithography and earned money enough to enroll in
 
he learned lithography and earned money enough to enroll in
 
1871 in the Royal Academy, Antwerp. There, unlike anyone before him,
 
1871 in the Royal Academy, Antwerp. There, unlike anyone before him,
 
he won all the art prizes the school offered and was officially hailed by the
 
he won all the art prizes the school offered and was officially hailed by the
king of Belgium. As secretary of the Massachusetts commission to the Vienna
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king of Belgium.
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As secretary of the Massachusetts commission to the Vienna
 
exposition in 1873, Millet formed a friendship with the American
 
exposition in 1873, Millet formed a friendship with the American
Charles Francis Adams, and then traveled through Turkey, Romania,
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Charles Francis Adams, Junior, and then traveled through Turkey, Romania,
 
Greece, Hungary, and Italy, finally settling in Venice to paint.
 
Greece, Hungary, and Italy, finally settling in Venice to paint.
  
  
At the opera, as Stoddard recalled, Millet immediately asked, "Where
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'''Photo (below): Francis Davis Millet. Back of photo (below): dedicated to Stoddard, February 19, 1875. In Hungarian "Emlekül" means "In memory of" and "Barátomnak" means "For my friend".'''<ref>Photos: Syracuse University Library. Thanks to James Steakley for suggesting that the inscription is in Hungarian.</ref>
are you going to spend the Winter?" He then invited Stoddard to live in
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his eight-room rented house. "Why not come and take one of those
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rooms?" the painter offered, "I'll look after the domestic affairs" -- is this
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a Stoddard double entendre?
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At the opera, as Stoddard recalled, Millet immediately asked, "Whereare you going to spend the Winter?" He then invited Stoddard to live in his eight-room rented house at 262 Calle de San Dominico, the last residence on the north side of San Marco, next to a shipyard and the Public Garden.<ref>The address is given by {{Engstrom}}, page 60. A Google Maps view of the area is available at: http://maps.google.com/maps?ftr=earth.promo&hl=en&utm_campaign=en&utm_medium=van&utm_source=en-van-na-us-gns-erth&utm_term=evl</ref> "Why not come and take one of those rooms?" the painter offered, "I'll look after the domestic affairs" -- is this a Stoddard double entendre?
  
  
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The two lived together during the winter of 1874-75, though Stoddard
 
The two lived together during the winter of 1874-75, though Stoddard
 
did not take one of the extra rooms. Millet's romantic letters to Stoddard
 
did not take one of the extra rooms. Millet's romantic letters to Stoddard
indicate that the men shared a bed in an attic room overlooking the
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make it clear that the men shared a bed in an attic room overlooking the
 
Lagoon, Grand Canal, and Public Garden.  
 
Lagoon, Grand Canal, and Public Garden.  
  
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Lack of space did not explain
 
Lack of space did not explain
 
this bed sharing, and Stoddard's earlier and later sexual liaisons with men,
 
this bed sharing, and Stoddard's earlier and later sexual liaisons with men,
his written essays and memoirs, and Millet's letters to Stoddard, all
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his written essays and memoirs, and Millet's letters to Stoddard, provide good evidence that their intimacy found active affectionate and erotic expressIon.
strongly suggest that their intimacy found active affectionate and erotic
 
expressIon.
 
  
  
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Stoddard's exclusive interest in men the less usual. In any case, the ranging
 
Stoddard's exclusive interest in men the less usual. In any case, the ranging
 
of Millet's erotic interest between men and women was not then understood
 
of Millet's erotic interest between men and women was not then understood
as "bisexual", a mix of "homo" and "hetero." The hetero-homo division has not yet been invented.
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as "bisexual", a mix of "homo" and "hetero." The hetero-homo division had not yet been invented.
  
  
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early in his relationship with Millet, the journalist wrote of "spoons" with
 
early in his relationship with Millet, the journalist wrote of "spoons" with
 
"my fair" (an unnamed woman) in a gondola's covered "lovers' cabin," and
 
"my fair" (an unnamed woman) in a gondola's covered "lovers' cabin," and
of "her memory of a certain memorable sunset-but that is between us
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of "her memory of a certain memorable sunset--but that is between us
 
two!" Stoddard here changed the sex of his fair one when discussing
 
two!" Stoddard here changed the sex of his fair one when discussing
"spooning" (kissing) in his published writing. Walt Whitman also employed the literary subterfuge, changing the sex of the male who inspired a poem to a female in the final, published version.
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"spooning" (kissing, making out) in his published writing. Walt Whitman also employed this literary subterfuge, changing the sex of the male who inspired a poem to a female in the final, published version.
  
  
==Touring Italy: February 1875==
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==Touring Italy: January 1875==
In February 1875, Stoddard, seeking new cities to write about for the
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In late January 1875, Stoddard, seeking new cities to write about for the
 
''Chronicle'', made a three-week tour of northern Italy, revising these memoirs
 
''Chronicle'', made a three-week tour of northern Italy, revising these memoirs
twelve years later for the Catholic magazine Ave Maria, published at
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twelve years later for the Catholic magazine ''Ave Maria'', published at
 
Notre Dame University. Stoddard wrote that his unnamed painter friend
 
Notre Dame University. Stoddard wrote that his unnamed painter friend
 
accompanied him as guide and "companion-in-arms," a punning name
 
accompanied him as guide and "companion-in-arms," a punning name
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was "hoisted into our compartment." But "no sooner did the train move
 
was "hoisted into our compartment." But "no sooner did the train move
 
off, than he was overcome, and, giving way to his emotion, he lifted up
 
off, than he was overcome, and, giving way to his emotion, he lifted up
his voice like a trumpeter;' filling the car with "lamentations." For half an
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his voice like a trumpeter," filling the car with "lamentations." For half an
 
hour "he bellowed lustily, but no one seemed in the least disconcerted at
 
hour "he bellowed lustily, but no one seemed in the least disconcerted at
 
this monstrous show of feeling; doubtless each in his turn had been similarly affected."
 
this monstrous show of feeling; doubtless each in his turn had been similarly affected."
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Among the statues that Stoddard admired in Florence were "The
 
Among the statues that Stoddard admired in Florence were "The
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Wrestlers, tied up in a double-bow of monstrous muscles" -- another culturally
 
sanctioned icon of physical contact between, in this case, scantily
 
sanctioned icon of physical contact between, in this case, scantily
 
clad men.
 
clad men.
  
  
In Genoa, Stoddard recalled seeing a "captivating" painting of the
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'''Right: "The Wrestlers". Uffizi Gallery, Florence, Italy.'''
"lovely martyr" St. Sebastian, a "nude torso" of "a youth as beautiful as
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[[File:Jnk--Pankratiasts(Wrestlers).jpeg|right|350px]]
Narcissus"--yet another classic, undressed male image suffused with
 
eros. The "sensuous element predominates," in this sculpture, said Stoddard,
 
and "even the blood-stains cannot disfigure the exquisite lustre of
 
the flesh." <<ADD PICTURE OF SAINT SEBASTIAN, if possible from Genoa>>
 
 
 
 
 
In Sienna, Stoddard recorded, he and his companion-in-arms slept in
 
a "great double bed ... so white and plump it looked quite like a gigantic
 
frosted cake-and we were happy." The last phrase directly echoes
 
Stoddard's favorite Walt Whitman Calamus poem in which a man's friend lies
 
"sleeping by me under the same cover in the cool night" -- "and that night I was happy.'' Sleeping happily with Millet in that cake/bed, Stoddard
 
again linked food and bodily pleasure.
 
  
  
==Back in Venice: Spring 1875==
 
Back in their Venice home in spring 1875, Stoddard recalled one day
 
seeing "a tall, slender and exceedingly elegant figure approaching languidly."
 
  
  
==A. A. Anderson==
 
This second American artist, A. A. Anderson, appeared one Sunday
 
at Millet's wearing a "long black cloak of Byronic mold," one corner
 
of which was "carelessly thrown back over his arm, displaying a lining of
 
cardinal satin." The costume was enhanced by a gold-threaded, damask
 
scarf and a broad-brimmed hat with tassels.
 
  
  
In Stoddard's published
 
memoirs, identifying Anderson only as "Monte Cristo," the journalist recalled
 
the artist's "uncommonly comely face of the oriental--oval and almond-
 
eyed type.'' Entranced by the "glamor" surrounding Monte
 
Cristo, Stoddard soon passed whole days "drifting with him" in his gondola,
 
or walking ashore.
 
  
  
Invited to dinner by Monte Cristo, Stoddard and his friend (Millet)
 
found Monte occupying the suite of a "royal princess, it was so ample and
 
so richy furnished.'' (Monte was a "princess,"' Stoddard hints.) Funded
 
by an inheritance from dad, Monte had earlier bought a steam yacht and
 
cruised with an equally rich male friend to Egypt, then given the yacht
 
away to an Arab potentate. Later, while Stoddard was visiting Paris, he
 
found himself at once in the "embrace of Monte Cristo," recalling: "That
 
night was Arabian, and no mistake!" Stoddard's reference to The Arabian Nights)
 
a classic text including man-love scenes, also invoked a western mystique of "oriental" sex.
 
  
  
==To England and Robert William Jones==
 
After the beautiful Anderson left Venice, Stoddard, the perennial
 
rover, found it impossible to settle down any longer in the comfortable,
 
loving domesticity offered by Millet. The journalist may also have needed
 
new sights to inspire the travel writing that supported him. He therefore
 
set off for Chester, England, to see Robert William Jones, a fellow with
 
whom, a year earlier, he had shared a brief encounter and who had since
 
been sending him passionate letters.
 
  
  
Stoddard's flight, after living with
 
Millet for about six months, marked a new phase in their relationship.
 
Millet now became the devoted pursuer, Stoddard the ambivalent pursued.
 
  
  
==Millet to Stoddard, May 10, 1875==
 
From Venice, Millet wrote affectionately to Stoddard on May 10,
 
1875, calling him "Dear Old Chummeke"--explaining, "I call you
 
chummeke," the "diminutive of chum,"' because "you are already 'chum'
 
but have never been chummeke before. Flemish you know." "Chum" and
 
its variations constituted a common, positive name
 
among nineteenth-century male intimates, one of the terms by which
 
they affirmed the special character of their tie.
 
  
  
Claiming he had not much to say because he "let out" so much in his
 
first letter (not extant, significantly and unfortunately) Millet reported
 
that he had a new pet. He had told their mutual friends, the Adamses, that
 
he had "named the new dog Charles Warren Stoddard Venus, though "it
 
wasn't that kind of a dog" (not, that is, a dog of mixed, ambiguous sex).  To Stoddard, Millet certainly referred to Stoddard's large admixture of
 
the feminine and perhaps to Stoddard's sexual intrest in men. To the
 
Adamses, Millet was probably perceived to refer only to Stoddard's effeminacy.
 
The dog's name "was not a question of sex,"' Millet had stressed to the
 
Adamses, "but of appropriateness."
 
  
  
The dog's-and Stoddard's-ambiguous masculinity had obviously
 
been the subject of some lighthearted banter between Millet and the
 
Adamses. But Millet's reference to Stoddard's effeminacy probably did not
 
then bring erotic infractions to this Adams family's mind, nor is it likely to
 
have suggested to them the sexual aspect of the relationship between these
 
men. Gender deviance and erotic nonconformity were not yet linked as
 
they would be after the installation of homosex and heterosex.
 
  
  
Another dog, Tom, "sleeps in your place now and fills it all up, that is,
 
the material space he occupies, crowding me out of bed very offen." Stoddard's
 
body was absent, but his spirit lingered on.
 
  
  
"Miss you?" Millet asked. He answered: "Bet your life. Put yourself in
 
my place. It isn't the one who goes away who misses, it is the one who
 
stays. Empty chair, empty bed, empty house." Millet's desire for Stoddard's
 
bodily presence is palpable in his words.
 
  
  
"So, my dear old cuss;' Millet ended warmly, "with lots of love I am
 
thine -- as you need not be told." He had obviously declared his love many times earlier.
 
  
  
==Millet  to Stoddard: May 26, 1875==
 
He was working on a painting that called for two boy models, "posing
 
two small cusses--the naked ones-together,"' Millet wrote to Stoddard
 
on May 26 (again, the talk was of nude male flesh). But the hot, dustladen,
 
dry wind of Venice, lightning flashes, and "the mercurial little
 
cusses" made him feel that he had "nearly ruined what good there was on
 
the canvas." Millet wished Stoddard was present to "make me feel that I
 
have not done so awfully bad work today."
 
  
  
"No gossip to speak of," Millet reported, except that a mutual male
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In Genoa, Stoddard recalled seeing a "captivating" painting of the
friend "does no work but spoons with Miss Kelley. "Spoon" appeared repeatedly
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"lovely martyr" St. Sebastian, a "nude torso" of "a youth as beautiful as
in Millet's letters and in Stoddard's published journalism, with
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Narcissus"--yet another classic, undressed male image suffused with
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eros. The "sensuous element predominates," in this art work, said Stoddard,
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Spooning reminded Millet that he had had "a squaring up" with Charlotte
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'''Right: Guido Reni. "St. Sebastian." Galleria di Palazzo Rosso, Genoa, Italy.'''
("Donny") Adams, the eighteen-year-old daughter of their good
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friends. Millet had told Donny "exactly what I thought of her going off with one fellow and coming home with another." In response, she had
 
tried to "put it all on to me:' saying "I alone was touchy." But Millet had
 
told her Stoddard agreed with his criticism, "and then she seemed very
 
anxious to beg my pardon etc. which was not granted."
 
  
  
Millet's high-handed objection to what he considered Donny's breach
 
of dating etiquette shows him identifying with a man done wrong, supposedly,
 
by a woman. Criticizing Donny's inconstancy in ditching one
 
man for another, Millet may have applied to her the same standard to
 
which he held himself. He was certainly constant in his romantic devotion
 
to Stoddard, despite the journalist's inconstancy. Stoddard, off with
 
Monte Cristo and Robert William Jones, clearly applied a less rigid rule
 
to his own liaisons.
 
  
  
Donny Adams had ended this confrontation by reporting one of her
 
men friends' suggestions: Millet was gaining weight that winter "because
 
I liked her and did not care to see another fellow go with her." Donny and
 
her man friend did not perceive that Millet's romantic-erotic interest was
 
focused then on Stoddard. Men's erotic romances with men were invisible
 
because at this time in the public consciousness, there was only one
 
kind of erotic-romantic attraction-toward the other, different sex.
 
  
  
Millet asked Stoddard to meet him in Belgium in July. Then, for the
 
first time in his letters, he acknowledged the imbalance in their need for
 
each other: "My dear old Boy, I miss you more than you do me." He wondered
 
"constantly--after dark;' he confessed, "why should one go and
 
the other stay. It is rough on the one who remains"--a repeated refrain.
 
"Harry" (another dog) "sends a wave of her tail and a gentle swagger
 
of her body"--"Charles/Venus" was not the only mixed-sex dog name.
 
"Tom;' Millet added, "sends you his brightest smile and Venus wags his
 
aimless tail in greeting."
 
  
  
==Millet to Stoddard: May 30, 1875==
 
He had not "passed one good night" since they parted, Millet admitted
 
to Stoddard on May 30, and he was "completely played out from
 
want of sleep and rest." He had not mentioned it before, "and I don't dare
 
tell you why I haven't."
 
  
  
What was it, exactly, that Millet dared not say? Was ~ simply that he
 
missed Stoddard too much and was depressed? Or did he believe, possibly,
 
that he had exhausted himself: in Stoddard's absence, from voluntary
 
or involuntary seminal emissions? Or, did Millet believe, perhaps, that
 
he received from Stoddard's physical presence some spiritual, or material,
 
vitality-enhancing substance? We cannot know for sure. But other evidence
 
that we will consider supports a sexual interpretation.
 
  
  
Whatever Millet did not say, he was also probably worrying again
 
about their unequal need for each other and about coming on too strong to Stoddard. We have already heard Stoddard's reference to two men
 
friends' "monstrous show of feeling." Displays of emotion were evidently
 
threatening, as well as intriguing, to Stoddard.
 
  
  
Millet had supposed for a while that it "was our old attic chamber that
 
made me restless."' and he had ordered Giovanni to move his bed elsewhere
 
in the house. He had not "been into our attic room since and don't
 
intend to go"--strong feelings about their old bedroom. But the "change
 
of room does not cure me."
 
  
  
"What is the matter?" asked Millet, struggling to understand the
 
source of his distress: "I know I miss you, my old chummeke, but isn't it
 
reasonable that my other self misses you still more and cant let me sleep
 
because he wants your magnetism! I think it must be so."
 
  
  
Millet was two-sided, he suggested, and one of his sides lacked the vital
 
force provided by Stoddard's physical, bodily presence. "Magnetism"
 
was a common nineteenth-century name for an individual's power to attract,
 
his force of personality, and his energy.
 
  
  
Was it possible that Millet missed, specifically, the vivifying ingestion
 
of Stoddard's spirit via oral sex? This is not as far-fetched as it may sound.
 
Three years after Millet wrote to Stoddard, in 1878, Dr. Mary Walker
 
warned readers of her popular medical manual not to believe the common
 
folklore that women's ingestion of men's semen, and men's ingestion
 
of women's vaginal secretions, promoted health, life, and beauty. The benefits of an older man ingesting a younger man's semen
 
was actually extolled by the English sex reformer Edward Carpenter to an
 
American visitor (Gavin Arthur) with whom he tested the practice in the early twentieth
 
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frosted cake--and we were happy." The last phrase directly echoes
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"sleeping by me under the same cover in the cool night" -- "and that night I was happy." Sleeping happily with Millet in that cake/bed, Stoddard
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again linked food and bodily pleasure. In Sienna, Stoddard and Millet also looked at frescos by the artist nicknamed "Sodoma", Giovanni Bazzi, the outspoken 16th century artist.<ref>James Saslow is working on a book about Sodoma: see http://maps.google.com/maps?ftr=earth.promo&hl=en&utm_campaign=en&utm_medium=van&utm_source=en-van-na-us-gns-erth&utm_term=evl</ref>
  
Mrs. Adams "is spooney on you, you know," Millet told Stoddard. But
 
the roaming Stoddard was not thinking about Mrs. Adams, however
 
affectionate their relationship. At long last, Stoddard admitted that he
 
missed Millet, who was extremely pleased to hear it: "Bet your life, dear
 
Boy, that it soothes me to learn that I am not the only one who misses
 
his companion in arms." ("Companion-in-arms" appears here, again, as
 
these bedfellows' private, affectionate name for each other.)
 
  
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==Back in Venice: Spring 1875==
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'''Photo below: Abraham Archibald Anderson'''
your finger on" -- he was still available for the taking. Millet played Penelope,
 
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==Millet to Stoddard: June 9, 1875==
 
"Since I got your last letter;' Millet reported on June 9, "I have passed
 
two good nights dreamless and waking only in the morning." Reassured
 
of Stoddard's love, he slept: "I reckon it was the influence of the letter, or
 
the prayer."
 
  
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of which was "carelessly thrown back over his arm, displaying a lining of
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cardinal satin." The costume was enhanced by a gold-threaded, damask
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scarf and a broad-brimmed hat with tassels.<ref>Photo: page 123 in Elmer S. Dean, “A. A. Anderson, Painter and Citizen.” ''The Broadway Magazine'',  May 1904, Vol. XIII, No. 2, pages 123-128. For more on Anderson see Gerald M. Ackerman, ''American Orientalists'' (Art Creation Realisation, September 1, 1994, ISBN-10: 2867700787. ISBN-13: 978-2867700781), page 270, accessed February 3, 2012 from http://books.google.com/books?id=onraQlj_C7wC&pg=PA270&lpg=PA270&dq=A.+A.+Anderson+painter+Venice+1875&source=bl&ots=AmTqc0Dk5I&sig=CC5m1fgr1tZHSxZHwAI6TRf3M-g&hl=en&sa=X&ei=eVwsT6pMyczYBae8hIEP&sqi=2&ved=0CCwQ6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=A.%20A.%20Anderson%20painter%20Venice%201875&f=false. Also see: Abraham Archibald Anderson. ''Experiences and Impressions: The Autobiography of Colonel A. A. Anderson''. New York, 1908.</ref>
  
Stoddard was still much on Millet's mind, however: The Adamses "say I am always thinking of you,"' and Millet did not deny it. But Mr. and
 
Mrs. Adams probably did not understand Millet's infatuation as sexual.
 
  
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memoirs, identifying Anderson only as "Monte Cristo," the journalist recalled
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the artist's "uncommonly comely face of the oriental--oval and almond-
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Cristo, Stoddard soon passed whole days "drifting with him" in his gondola,
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or walking ashore.
  
Earlier, Millet and Stoddard had conspired with Donny Adams for her
 
to meet a young woman she idolized from afar, Julia ("Dudee") Fletcher,
 
an androgynous, aspiring writer (later, the author of the noveI Kismet, the
 
source of the musical). But Donny had decided that she was afraid to
 
meet Dudee at home-to "beard the lion in his den," as Millet put it. (Julia,
 
the lion, is an intriguing, sex-mixed metaphor). So Millet had
 
arranged to introduce Donny to Dudee on some neutral ground, and, he
 
reported, "Donny at last has met her idol!!" He hoped that Donny "has
 
not created too exalted an ideal."
 
  
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so richy furnished." (Monte was a "princess,"' Stoddard hints.)
  
The Donny/Dudee introduction, in
 
fact, proved a bust. A few weeks later Millet reported to Stoddard that
 
Donny "has given up the study of girls and is going to devote herself to
 
the law. A profitable change, I think."
 
  
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away to an Arab potentate. Later, while Stoddard was visiting Paris, he
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found himself at once in the "embrace of Monte Cristo," recalling: "That
 +
night was Arabian, and no mistake!" Stoddard's reference to The Arabian Nights,
 +
a classic text including man-love episodes, also invoked a western mystique of "oriental" sex.
  
What, exactly, "the study of girls" meant to Donny is not clear. But
 
Donny's "interest in girls" and in men again suggests a historical fluidity
 
of libido that only later hardens into an exclusive, either/or devotion to
 
girls or boys. In 1875, neither Millet, Stoddard, nor Donny seem surprised
 
at her shift in interest from men to women.
 
  
 +
==To England and Robert William Jones==
 +
After the beautiful Anderson left Venice, Stoddard, the perennial
 +
rover, found it impossible to settle down any longer in the comfortable,
 +
loving domesticity offered by Millet. The journalist may also have needed
 +
new sights to inspire the travel writing that supported him. On May 5, 1875, he therefore
 +
set off for Chester, England, to see Robert William Jones, a fellow with
 +
whom, a year earlier, he had shared a brief encounter and who had since
 +
been sending him passionate letters.<ref>The date that Stoddard left is cited by {{Engstrom}}, page 66.</ref>
  
Millet ended this letter playfully, sending Stoddard "more than the
 
sum total of the whole with a sandwich of love between the slices," bidding
 
him, "Eat & be happy." Millet's love sandwich echoed Stoddard's
 
earlier linking of food and sensual satisfaction. "Yours with all my heart;'
 
Millet signed himself.
 
  
 +
Stoddard's flight, after living with
 +
Millet for about six months, marked a new phase in their relationship.
 +
Millet now became the devoted pursuer, Stoddard the ambivalent pursued.
  
==Millet to Stoddard: June 10, 1875==
+
=Next: [[Jonathan Ned Katz: Francis Davis Millet and Charles Warren Stoddard, 1874-1912, PART 2]]=
But Millet's needy heart now sometimes bled for his wandering loved
 
one. A note that the artist wrote the next day concluded with a drawing
 
of a heart dripping blood, an arrow through it, and the slang query "How
 
high is that?"--meaning "What do you think of that?"
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: June 18, 1875==
 
A few weeks later, however, on June 18, Millet was telling Stoddard:
 
"You can't imagine what pleasure I take in anticipating our trip in Belgium
 
and Holland. Don't fail to come, old chummeke, and we'll have a
 
busting time."
 
 
 
 
 
But, true to Millet's anxious premonition, his slippery, intimacy-shy
 
friend failed to appear in Belgium. And, by the summer of 1875, Millet
 
had run out of money and had returned to America, writing to Stoddard,
 
first from Boston, then from his parents' home in East Bridgewater,
 
Massachusetts, where he had a studio. In the States, Millet sought writing
 
and illustration work as a journalist, as well as commissions for
 
painted portraits.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: August 13, 1875==
 
In Massachusetts, Millet reported on August 13, he was "bored to
 
death" and felt himself "the prey of a thousand vulturous individuals who suck the vitality out of me in ten thousand different ways." This draining
 
of his vitality was the exact opposite of the vitality provided by Stoddard's
 
"magnetism;' and Millet's sucking metaphor may hint again at an aspect
 
of their energy interchange.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: August 15, 1875==
 
A letter from Stoddard had "brought an odor of the old country with
 
it that was refreshing in this desert," a gloomy Millet reported on August
 
15, from East Bridgewater, a place he detested: "If there ever was a
 
soul killing place this is it. Crowds of people ... swoop down upon me
 
and bore me to death."
 
 
 
 
 
If Stoddard, his "dear old fellow;' was with him, Millet imagined, "we
 
could be happy a few months and do some good work." Only his own
 
death, or his father's, could keep him in America, Millet declared dramatically, adding, "I hope for a long life for both of us yet." Intimations of mortality.
 
 
 
 
 
"You know that I only feel whole when you are with me;' Millet now
 
confessed, admitting for the first time his full, profound need for Stoddard.
 
Millet then referred, again, to Stoddard's "magnetism of the soul
 
that can not be explained and had better not be analyzed." Close analysis
 
of Stoddard's magnetism was dangerous for Millet. Stoddard's magnetic
 
attraction led Millet to a humiliating pursuit of an unavailable beloved,
 
perhaps even a loss of self.
 
 
 
 
 
His and Stoddard's "Venetian experience is unique;' declared Millet,
 
summing up their former romance at its height. He hoped for as good an
 
experience in the future, "if not a similar one." He still seemed to be expecting
 
a similar future intimacy with Stoddard, whom he urged to join
 
him on his travels through Europe (and, implicitly, through life): "We
 
can do the world if you keep up your courage."
 
 
 
 
 
Millet ordered Stoddard, jokingly, to "Tell Mrs Swoon" (Mrs. Adams,
 
no doubt) that he would send his photograph. But, in the meantime, he
 
enclosed for Stoddard "a crumpled proof of one as Juliette." The faded
 
proof of Millet in a long, curly, blond wig is still enclosed in his letter.
 
Playing with sex inversions was not, among these friends, limited to
 
dogs' names.
 
 
 
 
 
<ADD PHOTO OF MILLET AS JULIET>
 
 
 
 
 
Stoddard had written earlier that if Millet did not return to Europe
 
soon, he would find a new "boy"--his tease simultaneously expressed desire
 
for Millet and suggested that he was replaceable. Once again (as documented by historians), "boy"
 
and "man" name the partners in a nineteenth-century intimacy of males,
 
though, in this case, the actual age difference was slight. Millet was Stoddard's
 
"boy" only metaphorically, and temporarily, for the younger Millet
 
usually acted the active, pursuing "man," the older Stoddard, the hard-to-get "boy."
 
 
 
 
 
The ever-traveling Stoddard was impossible to pin down. Millet
 
finally understood, admonishing his flighty friend: "I see indications of
 
butterflying in your threat to try another boy if I wont come back." "Butterflying"
 
was slang then for "fickleness," "inconstancy in love," or "sexual
 
unfaithfulness"; only later did the butterfly come to symbolize effeminate,
 
men-lusting men.
 
 
 
 
 
"Go ahead!" (Try another boy!) Millet urged Stoddard, "You know
 
I'm not jealous, if I were I should be of Bob [Robert William Jones]. Anyone
 
who can cut me out is welcome to. Proximity is something but you
 
know I'm middling faithful."
 
 
 
 
 
Millet's faithfulness was now, for the first time, qualified, but his devotion
 
was still steady. Millet promised to write "pretty offen:' so that the
 
straying Stoddard "may not entirely forget me." He called Stoddard "my
 
windward anchor:' declaring himself "thine."
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: August 25, 1875==
 
There is a "glorious sunset" but he "cannot enjoy it," a disgruntled
 
Millet complained to Stoddard on August 25, blaming his unhappiness
 
on the "the absence of the only one of my sex (or any other sex) with whom I could enjoy any beauties of nature or of art without the feeling
 
that one or both of us was a porcupine with each quill as sensitive as a bare
 
nerve."
 
 
 
 
 
The sex of his soulmates was not important, Millet indicated, only
 
their sharing an appreciation of nature or art. However prickly their present
 
relationship, Millet still looked to Stoddard for contentment: "If you
 
were here Charlie, I could perhaps, be happy:' He employed another
 
food/affection metaphor: "Hungry: I'd give all I possess if you were here
 
to lie down under the pines at the river side and yawn with me for a season." He ended, "With very much love," and "I am always yours."
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: September 6, 1875==
 
He had spent the afternoon with Stoddard's brother Fred, Millet reported
 
on September 6, adding that Fred was a "dear fellow, wonderfully
 
like you." This resemblance, Millet knew, Charles was not happy about,
 
for the wastrel, alcoholic Fred represented the drifting Charles's worst
 
fears about his own future. Millet reassured Charles that his brother had
 
"changed very much since you saw him."
 
 
 
 
 
Fred, Millet again insisted, "certainly resembles you in a remarkable
 
degree in more ways than one" -- Millet intimates that Fred, like Charles,
 
was interested sexually, and perhaps exclusively, in men.
 
Insistently reminding Charles that he resembled Fred, Millet got his
 
own back against his long-courted, long-fleeing friend. He even tried to
 
incite a little jealousy: He and Fred "embraced," then spent the "whole
 
afternoon ... together," Millet reported.
 
 
 
 
 
Millet was still hoping "to have you for myself for a season in the only
 
country in the world" -- Italy. He was fantasizing about collecting a little
 
money, and buying a small house in Venice, making "an artistic place of
 
it," where Stoddard could stay, even if he was not a convert to "Bohemia." The terms "artistic" and "Bohemia" included sexual nonconformity within the iconoclasm they invoked. Millet would like to "live
 
and die in Venice," he said later.
 
 
 
 
 
Stoddard had reported quarreling with Mrs. Adams and her daughter
 
Donny, and Millet now commanded: "You had better make it up again
 
and spoon as before." He called Stoddard a "Don Juan" (in this context,
 
a man feminized by associating too closely with women). And, Millet
 
added, "it is plain that you need masculinizing a little--association with
 
an active broad-shouldered large-necked fellow will do it." He continued:
 
"I'm not that, but will do as a substitute in a pinch and would gladly serve
 
if you would only come in my way." Millet here played aspiring butch to
 
Stoddard's retiring femme.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: September 9, 1875==
 
Millet eagerly anticipated reconnecting with Stoddard in Europe, but warned him, in a letter of September 9, not to "go skimming way off somewhere where I can't come to." Just as he was returning to Europe,
 
Millet worried, "you will be on the move." He was "starving" for a letter,
 
he said, again looking to Stoddard for metaphorical sustenance.
 
 
 
 
 
But Stoddard was busy that September, visiting Ostend, Belgium, and
 
a secluded beach called, appropriately, "Paradise;' where, as he reported
 
to the San Francisco ''Chronicle'', the bathers, "mostly males," walk "to and
 
fro in the sunshine naked as at the hour of their birth." He had also spied
 
"one or two unmistakable females trip down to the water-line in Godivahabits," as well as "two Italians--lovers possibly, and organ grinders
 
probably," who, "guileless, olive-brown, sloe-eyed, raven-haired, handsome
 
animals, male and female, hand-in-hand, strode on the sand," then
 
loosened their clothes, and "with the placid indifterence of professional
 
models ... stepped forth without so much as a fig-Ieaffor shame's sake -- a
 
new Adam and Eve."
 
 
 
 
 
Given Stoddard's past practice of sex-reversal, it
 
is not difficult to imagine that this Italian Adam and Eve were actually
 
Adam and Steve, two male "lovers" and "organ grinders." To "grind" had
 
meant to "copulate with" since the 1600s, so Stoddard's "organ grinders"
 
certainly signified copulating lovers.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: September 27, 1875==
 
"If you are within grabbing distance," Millet wrote on September 27,
 
imagining a hands-to-body connection, "I shall get my paws upon you
 
suddenly, you bet!"
 
 
 
 
 
He had attended a "country cattle fair," and "a great ball," where he had
 
found "lots of stunning girls but none strong enough to anchor me to this
 
country, you may write your people." Stoddard was evidently charged
 
with informing their friends of any romantic adventures that might delay
 
Millet's return, and Millet's interest in girls was apparently unremarkable
 
to this group. But Millet's ship was still tied to Stoddard, his "windward
 
anchor."
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: October 19, 1875==
 
He would never have enough money to buy a house in Venice, Millet
 
despaired: "Such tight times I never experienced;' he complained on October
 
19. Stoddard's brother also wrote to say that he, "like many others,"
 
was "out of employment." ,
 
 
 
 
 
The panic of 1873, caused by unregulated speculation in railroads and
 
the overexpansion of industry, agriculture, and commerce, had weakened
 
the United States economy, which was eroded further by the contraction
 
of European demand for American farm products. The eftect of this crisis
 
was still being experienced in 1875.
 
 
 
 
 
For the first time in his letters, Millet expressed anger directly at the
 
elusive Stoddard, swearing on November 15: "You D.B. [damn bastard? deadbeat?], "you haven't written me for ages you know you haven't and why? Two weeks in Munich spooning! Spooning! SPOONING! and
 
couldn't find time to write me[.] ''Che diavolo!''"
 
 
 
 
 
Millet complained to Stoddard about a demanding visitor whose
 
three-week stay had left him "in agony." He added: "We'll have to take an
 
extra spoon to make up for all this," and confessed his own faithfulness,
 
"I haven't spooned a bit since I got back, you know l hnaven't but you, you
 
[here, he pasted a butterfly on the paper] you have had one solid spoon
 
with the Adamseseseseses and that's why I envy you." Millet's spooning
 
with Stoddard, and Stoddard's spooning with the Adamses, apparently
 
implied different sorts of spoons.
 
 
 
 
 
Jokingly, Millet directed his anger at Stoddard's lack of reciprocal feeling,
 
threatening him: "Now then you butterfly if you don't write more
 
I'll cut your --- off so you won't flutter about anymore." The missing
 
word is clearly "cock:' "dick:' "prick:' or some other slang term for
 
penis, and the slang suggests how the two may have talked sometimes
 
when alone. He could not speak freely in a letter, Millet several times told
 
Stoddard. Millet's threat also shows that he understood Stoddard's straying
 
as, specifically, sexual. The missing word also strongly, though indirectly,
 
suggests the sexual character of their own past relation.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: December 2. 1875==
 
"Do come up to Paris, chummeke!" Millet urged Stoddard on December
 
2: "Come and work!" he pleaded, begging, "Come up, Charlie, do!
 
Come and spoon and ... produce something! We will live again the old
 
Bohemian [life] in a different way." They would travel together, "and live
 
as artists should in Paris. Do come!"
 
 
 
 
 
Millet was then assisting the artist John La Farge in the decoration of
 
Trinity Church in Boston ("The romantic and picturesque details of this
 
enterprise I shall take keen delight in elaborating to you when we
 
meet.")
 
 
 
 
 
In addition, Mark Twain, a mutual friend of his and Stoddard's,
 
had come into the church and had "asked me to come to Hartford and
 
paint his portrait." Millet's artistic career was beginning to take off, and
 
he became, in a few years, a well-known artist of his day.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: January 15, 1876==
 
In his next letter, on January 15, 1876, Millet was fantasizing once
 
more about his and Stoddard's return to Venice: "If we could pass another
 
season there together I think I would not begrudge any sacrifice."
 
Financial sacrifice was Millet's obvious meaning, but emotional sacrifice
 
was implied. His feeling for Stoddard was frustrated and painful, as well
 
as sustaining.
 
 
 
 
 
Ending this letter with a postscript, Millet reported: "People here
 
think I am insane about a chum of mine and wonder why I don't find a
 
female attachment." The unnamed people did not expect that Millet's openly expressed, overwrought, persistent attachment to a male precluded
 
the more common attachment to a female. But even this new declaration
 
of Millet's affection provoked only silence from Stoddard, who
 
did not write again for about seven months.
 
 
 
 
 
The wandering Stoddard was having a jolly time. In "gay Paris," on
 
New Year's Eve, 1876, with a group of young men friends, as he reported
 
to the San Francisco ''Chronicle'', he attended a masked ball. There, those
 
who had come only "to renew our feeble but I trust virtuous indignation
 
at such sights, turn at last from the girls in boys' clothes; from the jaunty
 
sailor girl-boy who has just ridden around the room on the shoulders of
 
her captain; from the queen of darkness who swept past us in diamonds
 
and sables, and never so much as suffered her languishing eyes to rest for
 
a moment on anyone of us."
 
 
 
 
 
Stoddard stayed at a hotel "like a great boys'
 
boarding school,"  where he and the other boy-guests had pillow fights
 
while "robed in the brief garments of our sleep." With these friends he
 
hied himself to "gay halls where sin skips nimbly arm in arm with innocence
 
and verdancy," and the noisy carousers later attracted the attention
 
of a "brace of gendarmes, the handsomest and most elegant fellows in
 
Paris."
 
 
 
 
 
Stoddard's "gay," "girl-boy;' and "queen" are certainly sexual in
 
implication, but I do not believe they yet had the specifically "homosexual"
 
meanings they did two decades later.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: March 11, 1877==
 
In March of the following year, 1877, Millet was in Paris, and Stoddard
 
was somewhere else. On March 11, the persistent Millet was still
 
urging Stoddard to come and "occupy a room with me. I dare say I can
 
so arrange it with William who now is my bedfdlow and roommate."
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: April 24, 1877==
 
On April 24, Millet again urged: "My bed is very narrow but you can
 
manage to occupy it I hope." If Stoddard did not want to share that bed,
 
"we can fix things in the study."
 
 
 
 
 
In the summer of 1877 Millet was employed by several newspapers as
 
a journalist and illustrator to cover the Russian-Turkish war.
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: June 29, 1877==
 
On June 29 he wrote to Stoddard: "I've seen two battles and thirst for more." "Human
 
nature;' he added, "is incomprehensible, it adapts itself much too
 
easily to circumstances." His comment applied to his affection, as well as
 
his aggressive urges. "I am quite warlike now. You wouldn't know me;'
 
he later told Stoddard.
 
 
 
 
 
For the first time in his letters to Stoddard, Millet mentioned a new
 
love interest: "I am spooning frightfully with a young Greek here in
 
Oltenitza. He is a first rate fellow."
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet to Stoddard: May 7, 1878==
 
Back in London on May 7, 1878, after' receiving medals for services
 
rendered to Russia, Millet for the last time addressed Stoddard as "My
 
dear Chummeke." That change in address marked the end of Millet's fantasy of live-in domesticity with Stoddard, though the two remained friends for life.
 
 
 
 
 
==February 19, 1879==
 
Just eight months later, on February 19, 1879, Millet wrote friends
 
about his forthcoming marriage to Elizabeth ("Lily") Greely Merrill, an
 
accomplished musician and the sister of a successful newspaper editor,
 
William Bradford Merrill.
 
 
 
 
 
Describing his love for Elizabeth, Millet joked
 
that he was suffering from a "malady that doesn't let go very soon when
 
it has once taken hold and the more it attacks one the more he wants."
 
This "contagion" he had caught "very badly some time ago," and "on the
 
Eleventh of march next I am going to marry Miss Merrill." Millet clearly
 
felt for Elizabeth the same strong, constant, romantic infatuation that,
 
just a few months earlier, he had still felt for Stoddard.
 
 
 
 
 
On the appointed date, in Paris, Mark Twain and the foremost American sculptor of the
 
time, Augustus Saint-Gaudens, served as witnesses for the groom, and
 
showman Phineas Taylor Barnum stood as a witness for the bride. In
 
time, Millet and his wife produced three children: Kate, John Parsons,
 
and Lawrence.
 
 
 
 
 
Five years later, Millet fulfilled a dream, founding a Bohemian colony
 
with the painters John Singer Sargent, Alfred Parsons, and Edwin Austin
 
Abbey in the little old town of Broadway in England.
 
 
 
 
 
In addition to
 
working as a journalist and an illustrator, in 1887 Millet published a
 
translation of a Tolstoy war novel (read and praised, incidentally, by Walt
 
Whitman), wrote a book about his own seventeen-hundred-mile canoe
 
trip down the Danube (1891), a book of short stories (1892), and his report
 
of the United States military expedition in the Philippines (1899).
 
 
 
 
 
In 1893, Millet was appointed Director of Decoration and Functions
 
for the World's Columbian Exhibition, in Chicago, on the grounds of
 
which he got the visiting Stoddard a room next to his own.
 
 
 
 
 
Millet received
 
major commissions for murals for the state capitols of Minnesota
 
and Wisconsin, the Baltimore Customs House, and the Cleveland Trust
 
Company. <<PHOTOS OF THOSE?>>
 
 
 
 
 
He served on the American Federation of the Arts, the National
 
Commission of Fine Arts, and as director of the American Academy
 
in Rome, which he helped to found.
 
 
 
 
 
==1912==
 
In 1912, Millet and his close friend and Washington, D.C., roommate,
 
the bachelor Major Archie Butt, aide to President William Howard
 
Taft, booked steamer passage to the United States.
 
 
 
 
 
From Southampton, Millet mailed a letter to the artist Alfred Parsons
 
describing their steamer's accommodations: "I have the best room I ever
 
had in a ship and it isn't one of the best either."
 
 
 
 
 
Millet added: "Queer lot of people on the ship," in particular, "a number
 
of obnoxious ostentatious American women, the scourge of any place they infest and worse on shipboard than anywhere. Many of them carry
 
tiny dogs and lead husbands around like pet lambs. I tell you when she
 
starts out the American woman is a buster. She should be put in a harem
 
and kept there." Millet's comment seems as much a critique of class arrogance
 
and the relations of men and women as a misogynistic statement
 
on human females, and he probably did not mean this to be his last word
 
on the subject of women.
 
 
 
 
 
Three days after writing that letter, on the night of April 14, 1912,
 
Millet was reportedly last seen encouraging Italian women and children
 
into the lifeboats of the Titanic on which he, age 60, and Butt, age 46,
 
lost their lives.
 
 
 
 
 
A joint monument to Frank Millet and Archie Butt, designed
 
by the sculptor Daniel Chester French and architect Thomas
 
Hastings, in President's Park, Washington, D.C., is described as a tribute
 
to friendship. <<PICTURE OF MONUMENT>>
 
 
 
 
 
==Millet's Letters to Stoddard==
 
Millet's wonderful, loving letters to Stoddard were among Stoddard's papers
 
when he died in 1909, three years before Millet's death. Millet's letters
 
were then sold to Charles E. Goodspeed, a Boston dealer in books
 
and literary manuscripts, who seems to have held them off the market for
 
years because they were love letters from one man to another, and because
 
Millet, and, later, his wife, and immediate descendants were still alive.
 
The letters were again sold, finally, to another dealer in literary manuscripts,
 
from whom they were purchased by the library of Syracuse University,
 
which today preserves these precious documents.
 
 
 
  
 
==Notes==
 
==Notes==

Latest revision as of 10:25, 9 April 2012

Empty Chair, Empty Bed, Empty House

Adapted from Jonathan Ned Katz's book Love Stories: Sex Between Men Before Homosexuality (University of Chicago Press, 2001). The source citations are available in the printed edition.


Photo (right): Charles Warren Stoddard

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By November 1874, the American travel journalist Charles Warren Stoddard had given up on the South Seas, the site of earlier sensual adventures recorded in coyly coded form in published articles. He was now pursuing his erotic destiny in Italy.[1]


There in romantic, legendary Venice at the end of the year, "a young man quietly joined me" in a box at the opera during intermission, Stoddard recalled. "We looked at each other and were acquainted in a minute. Some people understand one anotherer at sight, and don't have to try, either." Stoddard's recollection of this meeting was published in Boston's National Magazine in 1906.


Stoddard's friend was the American artist Francis Davis Millet.[2] Stoddard was thirty-one in 1874, and Millet was twenty-eight.


During the Civil War, Millet's father, a Massachusetts doctor, had served as a Union army surgeon, and in 1864, the eighteen-year-old Frank Millet had enlisted as a private, serving first as a drummer boy and then as a surgeon's assistant.


Young Millet graduated from Harvard in 1869, with a master's degree in modern languages and literature. While working as a journalist on Boston newspapers, he learned lithography and earned money enough to enroll in 1871 in the Royal Academy, Antwerp. There, unlike anyone before him, he won all the art prizes the school offered and was officially hailed by the king of Belgium.


As secretary of the Massachusetts commission to the Vienna exposition in 1873, Millet formed a friendship with the American Charles Francis Adams, Junior, and then traveled through Turkey, Romania, Greece, Hungary, and Italy, finally settling in Venice to paint.


Photo (below): Francis Davis Millet. Back of photo (below): dedicated to Stoddard, February 19, 1875. In Hungarian "Emlekül" means "In memory of" and "Barátomnak" means "For my friend".[3]

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At the opera, as Stoddard recalled, Millet immediately asked, "Whereare you going to spend the Winter?" He then invited Stoddard to live in his eight-room rented house at 262 Calle de San Dominico, the last residence on the north side of San Marco, next to a shipyard and the Public Garden.[4] "Why not come and take one of those rooms?" the painter offered, "I'll look after the domestic affairs" -- is this a Stoddard double entendre?


Stoddard accepted Millet's invitation, recalling that they became "almost immediately very much better acquainted." Did Stoddard go home with Millet that night?


The two lived together during the winter of 1874-75, though Stoddard did not take one of the extra rooms. Millet's romantic letters to Stoddard make it clear that the men shared a bed in an attic room overlooking the Lagoon, Grand Canal, and Public Garden.


Lack of space did not explain this bed sharing, and Stoddard's earlier and later sexual liaisons with men, his written essays and memoirs, and Millet's letters to Stoddard, provide good evidence that their intimacy found active affectionate and erotic expressIon.


Though Stoddard's erotic interests seem to have focused exclusively on men, Millet's were more fluid. In the last quarter of the nineteenth century, Millet's psychic configuration was probably the more common, Stoddard's exclusive interest in men the less usual. In any case, the ranging of Millet's erotic interest between men and women was not then understood as "bisexual", a mix of "homo" and "hetero." The hetero-homo division had not yet been invented.


Another occupant of the house was Giovanni, whom Stoddard called "our gondolier, cook, chambermaid and errand-boy." His use of "maid" and "boy" hint at gender doubling, and, perhaps, at sexual nonconformity. (Giovanni's last name, not mentioned, is lost to history, typical in masters' accounts of servants.)


That winter, Millet taught Giovanni to prepare two classic New England dishes, baked beans and fish balls, and during the cold months, Stoddard recalled, he and Millet dined Massachusetts style in their warm Italian kitchen.


From the window of this kitchen in warmer weather, Stoddard recalled, they watched "the supple figures of half-nude artisans" working in an adjoining shipyard. It was "no wonder that we lingered over our meals there," said Stoddard, without explaining that lingering. Visual, alimentary, and erotic pleasures are repeatedly linked in Stoddard's and Millet's writings, as we will see.


During the daytime, Millet painted in their home's courtyard while Stoddard dozed, smoked, and wrote columns about Venice and other Italian cities for the San Francisco Chronicle. They dined early and took gondola rides at sunset.


In a newspaper column that Stoddard published early in his relationship with Millet, the journalist wrote of "spoons" with "my fair" (an unnamed woman) in a gondola's covered "lovers' cabin," and of "her memory of a certain memorable sunset--but that is between us two!" Stoddard here changed the sex of his fair one when discussing "spooning" (kissing, making out) in his published writing. Walt Whitman also employed this literary subterfuge, changing the sex of the male who inspired a poem to a female in the final, published version.


Touring Italy: January 1875

In late January 1875, Stoddard, seeking new cities to write about for the Chronicle, made a three-week tour of northern Italy, revising these memoirs twelve years later for the Catholic magazine Ave Maria, published at Notre Dame University. Stoddard wrote that his unnamed painter friend accompanied him as guide and "companion-in-arms," a punning name for his bed mate--the companion in his arms. This definitely intended pun allowed Stoddard to imply more about this companionship than he could say directly. A variety of other, barely coded references lace Stoddard's writing with allusions to eros between men.


In Padua, for example, Stoddard wrote that he and his companion were struck by views of "lovely churches and the tombs of saints and hosts of college boys." Casually including "hosts of college boys" among the "lovely" religious sights of Padua, and substituting "hosts of ... boys" for the proverbial "angels," Stoddard's sacrilege-threatening run-on sentence suggested that, to these two tourists, at least, the boys looked heavenly.


In another case, on the train to Florence, Stoddard and his companion noticed a tall "fellow who had just parted with his friend" at a station. As "soon as they had kissed each other on both cheeks -- a custom of the country;' Stoddard explained to nonkissing American men, the traveler was "hoisted into our compartment." But "no sooner did the train move off, than he was overcome, and, giving way to his emotion, he lifted up his voice like a trumpeter," filling the car with "lamentations." For half an hour "he bellowed lustily, but no one seemed in the least disconcerted at this monstrous show of feeling; doubtless each in his turn had been similarly affected."


Suggesting, slyly, that bellowing "lustily" was common among parting men friends and represented the expression of a deep, intense, and by no means unusual feeling, Stoddard pointed to a ubiquitous male eros, not one limited to men of a special, unique, man-loving temperament.


Typically keeping a sharp eye out for the varieties of physically expressed attachment between males, he also invoked Walt Whitman's poem on the tender parting of men friends on a pier: "The one to remain hung on the other's neck and passionately kiss'd him, / While the one to depart tightly prest the one to remain in his arms." That poem, and Stoddard's essay, suggest that parting provided, in the nineteenth century, a public occasion for the physical expression of intense love between men, a custom that had special resonance for men, like Stoddard, attracted to men.


Among the statues that Stoddard admired in Florence were "The Wrestlers, tied up in a double-bow of monstrous muscles" -- another culturally sanctioned icon of physical contact between, in this case, scantily clad men.


Right: "The Wrestlers". Uffizi Gallery, Florence, Italy.

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In Genoa, Stoddard recalled seeing a "captivating" painting of the "lovely martyr" St. Sebastian, a "nude torso" of "a youth as beautiful as Narcissus"--yet another classic, undressed male image suffused with eros. The "sensuous element predominates," in this art work, said Stoddard, and "even the blood-stains cannot disfigure the exquisite lustre of the flesh."


Right: Guido Reni. "St. Sebastian." Galleria di Palazzo Rosso, Genoa, Italy.

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In Sienna, Stoddard recorded, he and his companion-in-arms slept in a "great double bed ... so white and plump it looked quite like a gigantic frosted cake--and we were happy." The last phrase directly echoes Stoddard's favorite Walt Whitman Calamus poem in which a man's friend lies "sleeping by me under the same cover in the cool night" -- "and that night I was happy." Sleeping happily with Millet in that cake/bed, Stoddard again linked food and bodily pleasure. In Sienna, Stoddard and Millet also looked at frescos by the artist nicknamed "Sodoma", Giovanni Bazzi, the outspoken 16th century artist.[5]


Back in Venice: Spring 1875

Back in their Venice home in spring 1875, Stoddard recalled one day seeing "a tall, slender and exceedingly elegant figure approaching languidly."

Photo below: Abraham Archibald Anderson

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This second American artist, A. A. Anderson, appeared one Sunday at Millet's wearing a "long black cloak of Byronic mold," one corner of which was "carelessly thrown back over his arm, displaying a lining of cardinal satin." The costume was enhanced by a gold-threaded, damask scarf and a broad-brimmed hat with tassels.[6]


In Stoddard's published memoirs, identifying Anderson only as "Monte Cristo," the journalist recalled the artist's "uncommonly comely face of the oriental--oval and almond- eyed type." Entranced by the "glamor" surrounding Monte Cristo, Stoddard soon passed whole days "drifting with him" in his gondola, or walking ashore.


Invited to dinner by Monte Cristo, Stoddard and his friend (Millet) found Monte occupying the suite of a "royal princess, it was so ample and so richy furnished." (Monte was a "princess,"' Stoddard hints.)


Funded by an inheritance from dad, Monte had earlier bought a steam yacht and cruised with an equally rich male friend to Egypt, then given the yacht away to an Arab potentate. Later, while Stoddard was visiting Paris, he found himself at once in the "embrace of Monte Cristo," recalling: "That night was Arabian, and no mistake!" Stoddard's reference to The Arabian Nights, a classic text including man-love episodes, also invoked a western mystique of "oriental" sex.


To England and Robert William Jones

After the beautiful Anderson left Venice, Stoddard, the perennial rover, found it impossible to settle down any longer in the comfortable, loving domesticity offered by Millet. The journalist may also have needed new sights to inspire the travel writing that supported him. On May 5, 1875, he therefore set off for Chester, England, to see Robert William Jones, a fellow with whom, a year earlier, he had shared a brief encounter and who had since been sending him passionate letters.[7]


Stoddard's flight, after living with Millet for about six months, marked a new phase in their relationship. Millet now became the devoted pursuer, Stoddard the ambivalent pursued.

Next: Jonathan Ned Katz: Francis Davis Millet and Charles Warren Stoddard, 1874-1912, PART 2

Notes

  1. Adapted and republished on OutHistory without the original backnote citations from Jonathan Ned Katz's "Empty Chair, Empty Bed, Empty House", Chapter 14, in Love Stories: Sex Between Men Before Homosexuality (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2001), pages 202-219.
  2. Stoddard and Millet had met earlier in Rome, according to Peter Engstrom, Francis Davis Millet: A Titanic Life (East Bridgewater, Massachusetts: Millet Studio Publishing, 2010), page 62.
  3. Photos: Syracuse University Library. Thanks to James Steakley for suggesting that the inscription is in Hungarian.
  4. The address is given by Peter Engstrom, Francis Davis Millet: A Titanic Life (East Bridgewater, Massachusetts: Millet Studio Publishing, 2010), page 60. A Google Maps view of the area is available at: http://maps.google.com/maps?ftr=earth.promo&hl=en&utm_campaign=en&utm_medium=van&utm_source=en-van-na-us-gns-erth&utm_term=evl
  5. James Saslow is working on a book about Sodoma: see http://maps.google.com/maps?ftr=earth.promo&hl=en&utm_campaign=en&utm_medium=van&utm_source=en-van-na-us-gns-erth&utm_term=evl
  6. Photo: page 123 in Elmer S. Dean, “A. A. Anderson, Painter and Citizen.” The Broadway Magazine, May 1904, Vol. XIII, No. 2, pages 123-128. For more on Anderson see Gerald M. Ackerman, American Orientalists (Art Creation Realisation, September 1, 1994, ISBN-10: 2867700787. ISBN-13: 978-2867700781), page 270, accessed February 3, 2012 from http://books.google.com/books?id=onraQlj_C7wC&pg=PA270&lpg=PA270&dq=A.+A.+Anderson+painter+Venice+1875&source=bl&ots=AmTqc0Dk5I&sig=CC5m1fgr1tZHSxZHwAI6TRf3M-g&hl=en&sa=X&ei=eVwsT6pMyczYBae8hIEP&sqi=2&ved=0CCwQ6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=A.%20A.%20Anderson%20painter%20Venice%201875&f=false. Also see: Abraham Archibald Anderson. Experiences and Impressions: The Autobiography of Colonel A. A. Anderson. New York, 1908.
  7. The date that Stoddard left is cited by Peter Engstrom, Francis Davis Millet: A Titanic Life (East Bridgewater, Massachusetts: Millet Studio Publishing, 2010), page 66.